Category Archives: Personal Growth

On the Importance of Loving Yourself

Essential to emotional resilience is the ability to love myself. This does not mean approving of foolish behavior or overlooking character flaws that need changing. Rather, it means accepting, caring for, and forgiving myself as a person, just as I would treat someone else who has worth, yet isn’t perfect.

4 Practical Ways to Heal Shame

In this video on emotional health, I share four tips for healing feelings of shame.  I expand on these tips at great length in my public training seminars here, which I have delivered in multiple settings, such as conferences, congregations, and campus groups.

Resolving Anger: from Hurt to Healing

For those of you who are interested in the topic of emotional health and self-regulation, especially as it relates to the Christian faith, I’d encourage you to attend my upcoming speaking event at Lakeside Church in Guelph, Ontario. My talk is entitled Resolving Anger: from Hurt to Healing and is open to the public. Dinner starts at 6:00 pm, and I will be speaking at 7pm on Monday, September the 28th, 2015. I hope you’ll join me and the 80 people who are already expecting to be in attendance!

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What Is Forgiveness?


In the New Testament the word for “forgiveness” typically refers to putting something aside, leaving it alone, or letting it go. In the context of human relationships, forgiveness is the act of releasing someone else from their moral debt to you, even though you have the right to Continue reading What Is Forgiveness?

How Does God Guide Us?

How does God guide us? This question is often a source of struggle and disappointment for Christians who want to follow God but feel paralyzed by the plethora of possible life choices they could make. Should I marry this person? Is there one person out there for me? Where does God want me to serve? How do I know if it’s God speaking or just Continue reading How Does God Guide Us?

The Most Effective Way to Face Shame

In a previous post, I talked about the nature of shame within interpersonal relationships. I explained that the most powerful antidote for shame is internalizing the truth about one’s own inherent value as a person. At the very least, this process of internalization involves Continue reading The Most Effective Way to Face Shame

The Most Powerful Antidote to Shame

Before we can talk about an antidote to shame, we need to know what shame is. My best definition of shame is the deeply felt sense that the self is defective or inadequate compared to a standard of what it should be. Most of the time these standards are false, but when they take hold, the self lives in a continual state of Continue reading The Most Powerful Antidote to Shame

2 Thinking Styles that Influence Self-Esteem

The question of why some people develop healthy self-esteem (while others don’t) can be approached from many angles. Self-esteem can be understood and explained socially, emotionally, and behaviorally since it is a Continue reading 2 Thinking Styles that Influence Self-Esteem

Four Keys to Healthy Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem is the experience that one is inadequate or defective as a person according to perceived (and usually false) standards of who one should be. It is also the feeling of never really measuring up in the eyes of oneself and others. Healthy self-esteem is quite different. It is experiencing oneself as Continue reading Four Keys to Healthy Self-Esteem